Whether you believe it's psychobabble or a natural part of adult life, the midlife crisis is getting a new look from psychologists.
What does a midlife crisis look like? Is it a man who hits his forty-somethingth birthday and suddenly drives off towards the sunset in a new sports car, a twenty-something girl in the passenger seat?
Is it the woman who surprises longtime friends by treating herself to an all-new new wardrobe, hairstyle, and hobbies such as exercising like mad?
Although psychologists originally used the term "mid-life crisis" to describe a transitional stage in adult development, today there are questions about its authenticity. Is it a myth? An excuse for atypical—even bad—behavior?
Or is it a real, natural life stage that would benefit from a new name?
Let's do a short history of the mid-life crisis…
- First used in 1965, the term "midlife crisis" became popular after it began to be used by Freudian psychologists. Carl Jung, for example, described it as a normal part of adult maturation—a time during which people took stock of themselves.
- Erik Erikson, the theorist known for creating the Eight Stages of Development, explained it as a transition during the stage he called "middle adulthood" — when people naturally struggle with questions about their meaning and purpose. With necessary adjustments made at midlife, he believed, people could achieve long term satisfaction by the last stage of life, called "late adulthood."
- Today mainstream psychologists believe a midlife crisis often starts with an overwhelming moment of crisis when we first become aware that life is passing us by. If you've made dissatisfying life choices, you might feel a harsh sting—the thought there's not much time left to accomplish or become what you'd once imagined.
But certainly those crises of realization can happen at any time in life. So, recently, researchers have questioned the validity of a true midlife crisis. They name three main reasons to rename the midlife crisis…
Today's longer life span. Jung placed midlife crisis at about age 40, which at the time was considered halfway between adulthood and the end of life. Since then, life expectancy has shifted from 55 to 78, meaning midlife today would hit closer to age 55 or 60.
Yet those crises and questions that fuel the traditional midlife crisis still occur in the early to mid-forties, when we first encounter signs of aging.
Changing expectations of happiness. People today generally have higher expectations for personal happiness—we tend to think we deserve happiness beyond the satisfaction of being in a good career, good marriage, and raising children well. We also have many more options available as far as where and when we work, whether or not we marry (or stay married), and whether or not we raise children. Sometimes the range of choices can seem overwhelming, or even lead to remorse.
Changing social roles. On a related note, about 25 percent of wives today earn more than their husbands. Clearly, some women can now afford the kind of life changes only their male counterparts once could. Plus, many men are more involved in parenting today, some even choosing to be stay-at-home dads. As the linked article states, these are not the kind of men who run off for a midlife adventure without great misgivings about separating from their kids. Social and familial roles do not break along the same strict lines as, say, in the 1950s and 1960s.
Some psychologists today suggest a new name for the midlife crisis: the emerging maturity crisis.
Whatever its name, you can learn ways to mitigate the effects of the "midlife crisis," thanks to the Akea lifestyle.
Keep your nutrition—and therefore your wellness and energy—at optimal levels by eating well and taking your Essentials.
Keep your body and mind well-tuned through regular movement.
Build your social networks and community, and nuture your sense of purpose.
Make relaxation and ample sleep part of your daily life.
What's your take? Do we need a new name and new approach to these times of personal crisis? Have you successfully navigated such a crisis? And did Akea help you? Comment and share, if you will.